Pardon my dust — the list is not yet complete and some of the below may have writing in need of formatting. Hold tight; it’s all coming soon!
In the meantime, you can view my Fetlife writing index here.
Educational and Informational
Educational: Play and Bottoming
- Questions and Considerations for Bottoming to Degradation Play
- The Risk Profile: an alternative measure for safety and comfort in play
- You should reevaluate your risk profile.
- Don’t Threaten Me with a Good Time: how to say you want to not want it
- Ten Ways to Research Risk in Kink
- When it comes to emotional S&M, safewords don’t really work.
- How do you make sure it isn’t too real? A conversation on CNC with -chickenlittle-
- Scene Practicalities from the Bottom: a case study
- The Kool Aid Man-Sized Hole: pre-planning for unintentional consent violations
- Set and Setting in Emotional S/m
- Changing Your Relationship With Pain
- Making a Masochist: Coda to ‘Changing Your Relationship with Pain’
- So you want to DECREASE your pain tolerance
- Avoiding Long-Term Trauma from CNC + Traumatic Play: a research-optimized framework for aftercare
- Good vs. Bad Pain (for safety and as a pain processing tool)
Educational: Disability and the Body
- Tips for Kinking with Chronic Illness
- My considerations for play re hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (hEDS)
- Four Things You’re Getting (Kind Of) Wrong About Stretching
- We SHOULD talk about fitness and bottoming–but we need to do it better.
- The idea that consent must be enthusiastic is a privileged take on the world. (No, this isn’t a CNC post.)
Educational: Roles and Relationships
- What You Must Know About Yourself Before Pursuing a Power Exchange
- A guide to submissive-initiated protocol
- So you’ve found yourself in a long distance relationship: what worked for me on the right side of the slash (Better version of the below writing, updated in response to the COVID-19 Pandemic experience)
- Long Distance Relationships: lessening the suck
- Thoughts on Fighting Codependency in Kink
- The Subservient Little
Unhealthy vs Healthy TPE and Dark Dynamics
- START HERE: Rules of Engagement, Context, and Definitions
- Part II: What makes for a healthy/unhealthy TPE (according to me and others)
- Part III: Questions to ask yourself to tell if your dark dynamic or TPE is unhealthy or not
- Part IV: You know someone whose dynamic seems unhealthy, or yours is and you want to stay. Now what?
Blogs and Personal Writing
Coming soon!