Wax, Fire, and Heat

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All the risks below are possibilities of the listed activity. They are listed in no particular order. Please do not consider it to be exhaustive or use it as your sole determining factor when it comes to your safety. Some risk possibilities must nearly always be considered; a few of these can be found in the second tab below. Additionally, please note that the list below does not account for acts of intentional malice or for every complicating medical condition. Possible mitigation strategies or more information sometimes appear under risks when given. These should not be considered solutions that bring a risk to 0%, nor should they be considered the only possible solutions or information. Likewise, lack of a mitigation strategy or research being listed does not mean none exists.

Risks

Burns

Burning of clothing

Burning of hair

Allergic reactions

Housefires

Skin infections

Burns increase susceptibility

Tissue damage

risk mitigation with brands/direct heat application: smaller areas of contact with higher temp = lower thermal mass, transfering less total heat into the tissues. marks are better defined and damage is healthier.
Beeswax is generally considered far too hot for most and not recommended for play.

Long-term carcinogen inhalation risks

Wonky scarring

Damage to soft tissues from heat on impact OR growing residual heat

Gross fluid-filled blisters

Permanent skin texture change

In the future, burnt skin is more likely to split if hit

Food coloring mixed with paraffin wax will stain skin

Liquid nitrogen brands (not technically a “burn” but had nowhere else to put) can last 5+ years

Circumferential burns (around a limb or torso) can cause serious complications due to a swelling-induced tourniquet effect

Ever-present risks

Risks/possibilities to always consider include (but are not limited to):

Psychological trauma, which can be unexpected and long-lasting

A resulting lack of ability to communicate (incl. safewords)

Pre-existing conditions or triggers not being disclosed, therefore increasing other risks without the other party’s knowledge

Equipment failure and the risks therein, both of structural elements (e.g., furniture, hard points) and toys (i.e., risks resulting from the toy breaking and associated jagged edges, shattered glass, etc)

Medical and legal misadventures

If there’s an emergency, who will get this person to the ER? Do you know their first and last name(/how to get to their ID if not) if they’re unconscious? Does any party want/need a cover story, particularly if the answer to the consent-to-assault question is “no”? Has everyone agreed on one that is as close to the truth as possible (medical professionals need what fully happened)?

Can you consent to assault in your state (assault in this case = near any kind of pain purposefully inflicted on a person)? If not, is the person facilitating the experience prepared to accept consequences if a worst-case scenario happens?

Thoughts and reactions of overhearers/onlookers, both kinky and non

Increased danger that comes from the prevalence of whiteness in Fetlife and popular media kinky pictures, leading warning signs and various medical conditions unnoticed on darker skin

To learn how this might appear, please see Mind the Gap here.

Allergies

Fungal/Staph infections from shared equipment

Shock

Fainting from pain, dehydration, shock, prolonged standing etc. and hitting head/bone/nerve

Panic attacks and related symptoms incl. shaking (dangerous especially with sharps) and inability to communicate

Financial responsibility

There’s a very expensive world of possibilities between “nothing went wrong” and “death”; when folks cannot take time off work, complications from play lead to loss of income for some, and job loss for others (or increase of severity of injury/trauma due to lack of ability to rest)

Changes/decreases to ability to heal even if experienced before due to natural aging and wear on the body

Death

The Fetlife post version of this list is available here.