Submission Beyond Limits is my workbook for empowered s-types looking to build power exchange skills, elevate kink negotiations, and craft authentic personalized paths in consensual BDSM dynamics. A kinky guided journal that goes beyond the 101, designed with love by vahavta (me!) for both partnered and single submissives.

That’s the short pitch. Now have the long one!

For the printable/digital copy and/or the “Instructions for D-types” add-on, visit my Etsy! Plase note: these are digital products and you will not receive any shipped product.

For a physical copy, check out Amazon.com, Amazon.ca, Amazon.co.uk, or search on yor own Amazon (most have it)!

After a decade immersed in power dynamics and bottoming, dozens of kink classes taught virtually and internationally, and all the many messages I’ve exchanged with people on their own journeys – both very similar and very different to my own – I understand how frustrating it can be to find guidance that truly resonates with YOUR unique journey. Too often, the resources out there assume a one-size-fits-all approach to being an s-type and go from there. That’s why I poured my heart into crafting a resource that I wish had existed when I was just starting out – a resource that honors the uniqueness of each individual’s journey and provides the tools and support needed to thrive on the submissive side of the slash.

Submission Beyond Limits isn’t just another workbook or big yes/no/maybe list with a few generic “what does submission mean to you?” style questions – it’s a roadmap to self-discovery, empowerment, and fulfillment. In 170+ pages, this workbook is full of tips, planning sheets, and journal prompts, and though you will find a yes/no/maybe list or two and questions around what submission means to you, you’ll also find resources to uncover…

🔍 Deep insights into your motivations, helping you to find clarity and direction in your journey and avoid pitfalls of fears or frenzies
💬 Techniques for communicating with D-types more effectively in order to foster deeper connections, as well as to offer clear, constructive feedback that leads to more fulfilling experiences
🛡️ Strategies to navigate challenges like drop or misunderstandings with confidence, focusing on your well-being every step of the way.
🚧 Tools for setting the kinds of boundaries that might come up with power exchange dynamics, protocol, and play
🔗 Guidance on crafting processes to manage negotiation, scene prep and aftercare, ongoing dynamics and their maintenance, and your ongoing growth and education – including worksheets you can fill out and share with your partner(s)
📈 Exploration questions and logs to help you refine skills and keep track of your learning over time

Who is this good for?

• Both newbies and seasoned players, currently partnered or not – it’s designed to be very flexible and offer multiple options throughout
• People who are familiar with basic kink vocabulary or are willing to do the Googling on such things on their own
• People who like to reflect, dive deep, think, and write stuff down

What won’t I find?

• A whole lot of new essays. There is some information and guidance throughout, but this isn’t meant to replicate or replace my writings – it’s a workbook for you.
• Erotica, unless you consider self-reflection, type-A planning, and deep-dives into your desires and needs to be erotica in which case yeah this is absolutely erotica
• Much on relationship styles like polyamory/monogamy – though such things might come up in some of the worksheets, this focuses largely on power exchange and bottoming skills

So that’s that for now. My lil’ ad. You can see some of the pages in that image I posted and on the Etsy listing, if you want. I’m open to any questions at all you have on it below, and I’d really appreciate your crumbs on this either way. If you want to just know when the full thing is out, you can subscribe to my Substack here (and I’m sure I’ll post then on Fet, also!)

I’m not going to stop creating free resources. This is partially so that I can continue to. I love writing. I love teaching (and attending my classes will be one way to get a few relevant pages). I love talking to others about their journeys and talking to them about mine. I love diving deep. And if you do too, and are ready to empower yourself or your partner to fully lean into using personal desires and strengths to become the s-type you/they want to be, I hope you’ll consider getting Submission Beyond Limits from one of the links above.