hi! I'm vahavta.

I believe in bottoming education, the power of words, and the right to pursue filling your life with your most romantic nightmares.

When I joined the kink scene a decade ago, I immediately felt a bit... out of place. I was being taught that "your kink is not my kink but your kink's okay" while getting told that the kind of relationship I'd always wanted wasn't okay at all. Well, I'm no brat, but I do push back hard on things that matter to me... and now I write, teach, and speak on bottoming for CNC and edge play, building power exchange dynamics that may not look like the norm, and evaluating risks (while choosing to take them), along with the intersections of BDSM and certain disabilities (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome in particular), along with working to create the resources that I wish I had years ago.

Today, I am married to my Owner and live in a 24/7 CNC-based no-safeword dynamic and believe all good relationships, kink or otherwise, are those that are built with intention. I love suffering in the darkest crevices of my secrets, piling new books on my nightstand, naps, spooky poetry, and my dog.

This site is currently extremely under construction. Please bare with me as I get everything uploaded, formatted, and all of that other good stuff.